Lady Boss

Over the years I have morphed from being an employee to being a boss. Four years ago my company moved into a warehouse space and with business partner/brother moving out of state I became, and though he comes to help periodically, primarily in-charge of the day to day activities. As a fulfillment operation, moving copious amounts of heavy boxes—with my I-am-way-stronger-than-you-think strength or Delores, my trusty forklift, is a daily occurrence.

Though I am often the only person to encounter, men will most often look past me—into the warehouse—to see if “the boss” is there for them to talk to. I routinely have to tell people I am the one in-charge. I have freight drivers that look questioningly as I pull up in Delores to unload a truck. My landlord has been known to speak down to me and not treat me like my male counterparts (when my water heater sprung a leak he asked if I had been poking it…). And the other day, after I had more pallet shelving installed and asked the men how to pay and was told the owner would contact me, the owner sent multiple emails to my brother saying “the receptionist didn’t know how to pay.”

When my aunt and I made Milo a custom outfit for my brother’s wedding I knew this was a photo I wanted to take. Its over the top and ridiculous, just like how I have been treated as a female business owner. But over the years, though it still bothers me, I am comfortable in my position and skills and as Lizzo would say, “feeling good as hell.”

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and of course we had to do one full company shot.

and of course we had to do one full company shot.

Thirty-Two

2019

The year started off rough. I had just lost my main client—in a very hurtful backhanded way—which more or less instantly dropped 60% of my income, I was one year into expensive home ownership, I felt deceived by my favorite person that made the previous year one of the most fun, and I wasn’t doing too well in general. But spoiler alert—it ended on the up and up with new business opportunities, a house full of family for Christmas and new friends that are actually solid and here to stay.

House:

-One new toilet

-Two bathrooms look way less gross

-One gross room turned into the cutest guest room complete with reading nook

-Laundry room is almost finished! and I learned how to do trim!

-My room is halfway textured/painted

-I made one amazing closet out of shelving from my office

-3 new light fixtures

-One leaking hole fixed

-6 new paint colors used

-Did my first plumbing project and replaced a vanity, totally by myself including getting the new one in and the old one out of my house

-All the carpet removed, almost all the new exposed wood painted

-THE RACCOONS HAVE BEEN EVICTED!

-I had 13 guest different overnight guests

January:

I spent my birthday in Disney World with 2 sisters, 2 brothers-in-law, 2 nieces and 2 nephews.

My newest niece held out a whole 12 hours as to not share my birthday, but I love her anyway and flew to Idaho to snuggle and photograph her.

February:

I flew to TN for the worst job of my entire life. The story is long and CRAZY, but I will say this, I am the only thing that kept that shoot afloat, I slept in the master closet they converted to a bedroom while my 23 yr old assistant got a real room—because the photographer wanted to sleep with her, there were instances of sexual harassment, inappropriate behavior, breakups and breakdowns. I also have yet to be paid because the photographer has told me he won’t pay until I sue him—but don’t worry, he paid my assistant ,,, On the plus side, Sarah came to spend the night in my tiny room she named “the good ship lollipop” and I spent two weekends with her family—we even made it deep into the Smokies to visit a distant relative who lives in the coolest bunch of cabins that have been connected to form one house.

March:

I flew to LA to go to the Arlo Guthrie concert with my aunt, uncle and siblings. We also squeezed in a visit to the Getty and Magic Castle.

-I went to Moab with some friends for a mountain biking weekend. I quickly learned that depth perception is VERY important and I should never mountain bike ever again.

May:

I went to Boise for Memorial Day and went to the cemetery with the Davis clan to do our annual cleaning of the family stones.

June:

-I flew to LA to visit my siblings and I finally got to meet Levi and Mallory’s bees. Queen Bee-yonce took have the hive and fled, so that was a said day.

I drove to my favorite place, McCall, Idaho, where we used to have a family cabin and spent the weekend with my cousins.

July:

My brother-in-law Luke flew to town and I drove him to an ultra marathon in Idaho. I crewed Aaron and Luke and they ran a lot lot lot of miles. Then Luke helped me with ALLLLL the house projects before he flew home. He is the reason I finally have a real life toilet in my upstairs bathroom.

I flew to New York to visit one of my best friends and Jenny came up from Philly for the sweatiest day of our lives and then popped over to Boston to see one of my favorite humans get married.

August:

The insane photographer that is making me sue him asked me to do a job. I ended up doing the job with a different photographer and I have never been stressed out so bad in my life. It was completely out of my comfort zone and I have never felt more out of place and unqualified for a job EVER. So if you ever get thrown into crazy job you weren’t expecting, I GET YOU.

September:

I flew to LA for work and play. My nephew had his first birthday and it was quite a bash. I also made it to a party for a new client where we (two of my brothers were there too!) sang waaaay too much karaoke.

I drove to Boise with my mom and visited family including my cousin who has our childhood carousel at her house. I have so many memories on that thing! I also photographed my brother in law for his new axe business, check it out!

October:

The first ever, All Davis Girls Vacation, took place in Las Vegas where we ate too much and saw Donny & Marie.

December:

I used my photoshop skills to create my favorite Christmas presents yet.

I hosted a Friends Giving with my friend Rebecca, I will never pass up a chance to deck out a table with all hoard of dishes and accessories.

I hosted Christmas Eve, had 4 adults and 4 kids stay the night and hosted a family party later in the week. We also made intense gingerbread houses, went to temple square in the rain, did the nativity play and I passed down the very important job of peanut butter ball making to my namesake, Nora Jane—girlfriend had chocolate wrist to armpit!


Things not in a month:

My business flipped a 180 and we went from selling for large cosmetics companies (handling eBay and Amazon) to fulfillment for small cosmetics startups. We had one client at the beginning of the year and ended with SIX! I even invested in one and am crossing my fingers that they take off (first ever time investing in a company). Things have gotten crazy busy and I haven’t had a day off since July and have worked all holidays. Hopefully 2020 has more employees and less overtime for me!

In addition to working at my office full time, I freelanced over 100 times and occasionally was known to stand in for a color card a time or two.

I started kickboxing! I have been struggling to find something that I enjoyed to get back to my old active self. I didn’t find it until the end of the year, but quickly turned my bad habits of never working out to going to the gym three times a week.

I stole all the dogs

I occasionally dyed my hair pink

The End